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Feeling the Love!

on February 14, 2012

What a fantastic day! Thank you for all my special valentines! You spoil me! Our party was stellar. Thanks to all who came! The kids kept talking about what fun they had! I want you to know today that I do love your babies. You may not realize that, but it is important that I tell you that today. I enjoy their little quirks and personalities so much! Today their behavior was amazing as we had one of the craziest days of the year. That says a lot about your parenting skills at home. Thank you for that. I want to share a little story I found…it is from the perspective of a parent on the first day of school. Just know that I see your child. I see them.

To Beth’s First-Grade Teacher

I didn’t know the man in front of me that morning. But I did notice that both of us walked a little straighter, a little more proudly as our daughters held our hands. We were proud but apprehensive on that important day. Our girls were beginning first grade. We were about to give them up, for a while at least, to the institution we call school. As we entered the building, he looked at me. Our eyes met just for a minute, but that was enough. Our love for our daughters, our hopes for their future, our concern for their well-being welled up in our eyes.

You, their teacher, met us at the door. You introduced yourself and showed the girls to their seats. We gave them each a good-bye kiss, and then we walked out the door. We didn’t talk to each other on the way back to the parking lot and on to our respective jobs. We were too involved thinking about you.

There were so many things we wanted to tell you, Teacher. Too many things were left unsaid. So I’m writing to you. I’d like to tell you the things we didn’t have time for that first morning.

I hope you noticed Beth’s dress. She looked beautiful in it. Now I know you might think that’s a father’s prejudice, but she thinks she looks beautiful in it, and that’s what’s really important. Did you know we spent a full week searching the shopping malls for just the right dress for that special occasion? She wouldn’t show you, but I’m sure she’d like you to know that she picked that dress because of the way it unfurled as she danced in front of the mirrors in the clothing store. The minute she tried it on, she knew she’d found her special dress. I wonder if you noticed. Just a word from you would make that dress all the more wondrous.

Her shoes tell you a lot about Beth and a lot about her family. At least they’re worth a minute of your time. Yes, they’re blue shoes with one strap. Solid, well-made shoes, not too stylish, you know the kind. What you don’t know is how we argued about getting the kind of shoes she said all the girls would e wearing. We said no to plastic shoes in purple or pink or orange.

Beth was worried that the other kids would laugh at her baby shoes. In the end she tried the solid blue ones on and, with a smile, told us she always did like strap shoes. That’s the first-born, eager to please. She’s like the shoes—solid and reliable. How she’d love it if you mentioned those straps.

I hope you quickly notice that Beth is shy. She’ll talk her head off when she gets to know you, but you’ll have to make the first move. Don’t mistake her quietness for lack of intelligence. Beth can read any children’s book you put in front of her. She learned reading the way it should be taught. She learned it naturally, snuggled up in her bed with her mother and me reading her stories at naptime, at bedtime and at cuddling times throughout the day. To Beth, books are synonymous with good times and loving family. Please don’t change her love of reading by making the learning of it a burdensome chore. It has taken us all her life to instill in her the joy of books and learning.

Did you know that Beth and her friends played school all summer in preparation for their first day? I should tell you about her class. Everybody in her class wrote something every day. She encouraged the other kids who said they couldn’t think of anything to write about. She helped them with their spelling. She came to me upset one day. She said you might be disappointed in her because she didn’t know how to spell “subtraction.” She can do that now–If you would only ask her. Her play school this summer was filled with positive reinforcement and the quiet voice of a reassuring teacher. I hope that her fantasy world will be translated into reality in your classroom.

I know you’re busy with all the things that a teacher does at the beginning of the school year, so I’ll make this letter short. But I did want you to know about the night before that first day. We got her lunch packed in the Care Bear lunch box. We got the backpack ready with the school supplies. We laid out her special dress and shoes, read a story, and then I shut off the lights. I gave her a kiss and started to walk out of the room. She called me back in the asked me if I knew that God wrote letters to people and put them in their minds.

I told her I never had heard that, but I asked if she had received a letter. She had. She said the letter told her that her first day of school was going to be one of the best days of her life. I wiped away a tear as I thought: Please let it be so.

Later that night I discovered a note Beth left me. It read, “I’m so lucky to have you for a dad.” Well, Beth’s first-grade teacher, I think you’re so lucky to have her as a student. We’re all counting on you. Every one of us left our children and our dreams with you that day. As you take our youngsters by the hand, stand a little taller and walk a little prouder. Being a teacher carries with it an awesome responsibility.

Richard F. Abrahamson, Ph.D.

From A 3rd Serving of Chicken Soup for the Soul

One response to “Feeling the Love!

  1. Jennifer Meyer says:

    Thank you!!

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